Parental Guidance - China and Child Psychology

Summary:

In this article we will examine case studies as seen in the Chinese mental health clinic in Šangaju.Predstavljaju case will look at the effects of China's one child policy, but especially the strategies employed to control the children's parents do not live up to their expectations in the early age. We also consider the parents in accordance with established treatment covered by behaviorism and transaction analysis methodology.

Introduction:

in China in order to control population growth and the threat of economic and social crisis, the Chinese government regulates the birth rate in the country. In order to monitor the population strictly law enforced one child policy. Although human rights groups and Western ideology of freedom conflicts with China's population control methods, such as forced abortions, the abandonment of female children and a major cause of child abduction and trafficking of Chinese recognize the need for this policy or future famine and social collapse through over-population in the future is inevitable. Even in today's growth rate to one child per family, China will continue to have the largest population in the world with limited resources to support such growth.

, however, for psychologists interested more aimed at the social consequences of this policy for the mental health of children born in homes with only adults for company and no siblings to interact with and learn. In a previous article we explored the problem with under-developed skills in empathy, social communication and relationships. In this paper we focus on one child as a case study that is generalizable to the population that is now obsessed with education and social monitory success.

Case Study:

Chinese mother brought her nine year old boy with a foreign psychologist practicing in Shanghai as a consultant and professor psihologije.Majka boys explained the problems as follows:

's mother - "My boyfriend eats very slowly at dinner time, all the family eat together, but it will take almost an hour to eat and often just playing with food on your plate while also completes her. Homework for school and teacher often complain to us about his slowness in the classroom, his lack of friends and poor performance on tasks usually through their slow start and finish. in addition, often falling asleep on the table at home, and I'd wake up to him to bed. "

Psychologist: "How to deal with their behavior, and what his teacher is a normal response to their behavior in class ?"

Mother: .. "And my father and I yell and scream at him until the end of dinner or homework we have to tell him what the teacher says about him and that the decision of his parents lose face in front of her when she was in class, his teacher yells and complains about it all the time, and -. often other kids think it is slow and unfriendly to them

Psychologist: "The boy reaction to all this yelling and screaming that happens at home and at school

Mother: "He does not seem to care he just carries on in a slow way, we try to hurry him on to go into a tantrum until they leave it to continue with your meal or to play <. ​​.. / P>

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in this case is actually very typical in China with one child dominates the household and all adults focus on the child's welfare. In Eric Berne's (1960) theory of transactional analysis, each child's attention to look for a vehicle, trying to keep the spotlight by his parents. In early 1940 Piaget, also talked about children as selfish (egocentric) as just looking at the world around them with their point of view. Bern, however, to understand the behavior of the child talked about the child's mind that contain "little professors", which means Bern's children still trying to figure out how to get the best from adults, their emotional needs. In an ideal world it would be a positive experience of love that would benefit the child and parent. But in this busy modern world, parents are short and the need to speed up the process and the child's needs are often negative way. As in our case study, parents give children negative attention by yelling and screaming - the child is not able to get positive attention, therefore, welcomes the negative better than nothing. It would not be surprising in the past, if a child is in fact often ignored by adults when they are behaving peacefully. In combination with TAteorija BF Skinner in 1960, then based on the work of Pavlov (Russian) who experimented with a learned behavior through conditioning, Skinner has shown that rewards rather than punishment has led to major changes in normal patterns of behavior, and that positive reinforcement is given direction.

is the first step for the boys "little professor" when it was discovered that eating very slowly got him a tremendous amount of attention as adults discuss their "problem" and tries to convince the boy to eat faster and stop playing with your food. Sometimes parents will use bribes, as if a boy eats fast may have more time to play their computer games. It does not work they (parents) became frustrated and turned to threats, yelling and screaming at the boys. While the boy feels upset, he continues to eat slowly because this strategy works in getting him constant attention želi.Zadaća is another continuation of this attention seeking. After the meal is finished now, boy, can provide the attention continues. He deliberately takes much longer to complete tasks for homework. Parents in China are obsessed with education (one of the leading reasons for suicide in young people in the country), a fear that if their child is behind in any age they will not be able to catch and where parents rely on their own future well-being in that their one and the only child to be successful in business to pay towards their future mirovinu.Dječak continues this strategy in school. He sees the teacher as a mother figure and see her reaction was the same as his roditelji.Nastavnik screams and yells at him, just like at home. Therefore, in order to focus more on and continue to work slowly, often not finished the job. Despite the other children it resentment for taking so much time a teacher who is giving his support and constant pressure to the end. In a classroom of 20 children, he gets more than 70% of teacher time in class. For this boy -. Perfect

Treatment Suggestions:

considered the problem as an attention seeking behavior brought about by the reactions of parents and teachers at the boys slow behavior psychologist summarized the problems as boys three times:

1 slowness diet
Second The inability to complete homework in a reasonable time
Third Slow classroom activities

Parental problems as well,

1 Lack of insight into the needs of boys
Second The sentence of the emotional outbursts of shouting and screaming
Third Failure to set the boundaries within the family

the process of treatment:

psychologist proposed stepped approach to dealing with a problem that would affect other areas of transmission. What is meant by this is to address one area of interest of other areas could follow without any specific action.

the easiest and most convenient to control the slow-eat meals. The rest of the family is about 20 minutes to eat the evening meal. It was suggested that the boy be allowed 30 minutes to consume their meal, and at that point his plate should be removed, and in front of the remaining contents should be stored in a bin (trash bin). This should be strictly kept during each meal, including breakfast, if it problem.Namijenjen outcome would be that the boy soon realizes that he has time to consume food. It should not be allowed any other food until breakfast time no matter how much he says he is hungry and uzrujan.Roditelji supported by grandparents should not yell or scream, but remain calm and ignore any requests for more food. While this May cause some trouble for the child and parents at the beginning of a young boy sees this pattern occurs on a daily basis and without-his "little professor" will go to work to find a solution to his discomfort. Within a week he will begin to speed up their food and consume more in the prescribed time period. It is important for parents to praise him at every meal fails to finish within 30 minutes, but no other awards should ponuditi.Dijete will soon realize that positive attention comes as a result of the new meal schedule.

children never really learn through direct punishment or physical or emotional, but children often learn quickly when the danger of removing what they feel they need the most is taken away. In addition to meals, all computer games should be withheld until the home is completed in a period of time. Even if he completes the homework, if after a certain time of games are still to hold. Different tasks of school may take a different path and it should be agreed before it starts.

children never really learn through direct punishment or physical or emotional, but children often learn quickly when the danger of removing what they feel they need the most is taken away. In addition to meals, all computer games should be withheld until the home is completed in a period of time. Even if he completes the homework, if after a certain time of games are still to hold. Different tasks of school may take a different path and it should be agreed before it starts.

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In this case study is important to get the support of grandparents, because they see the initial pain of the child goes hungry and can not use their games or watch TV as well as cruel. This can lead to subversive behavior grandfather and grandmother to a child snacks secret and could undermine the process.

Teachers in China, while very competent in their subject areas have little understanding of child psychology and in accordance with Chinese culture feel suppression control children, although intimidation and threats of violence keep order in class, just like wider society here. Learning is mostly old-fashioned style, remember the fear of failure that could be repeated with the memory all aspects of the subject with very little insight into the application of learning. It goes right above and beyond university teaching in China.

outcomes

In this particular case study of a child has not improved, but over a longer time scale than originally envisaged by the psychologist, mainly due to three factors, first the parents are accustomed to yelling at the boy and took some time to change to a calmer atmosphere. The second is scheduled grandparents fought against the pro who wants to spoil a child at every opportunity. At the end of the school teacher did not understand the process and through habit and poor teachers continued to yell and scream at the students for failure to obey things.

Despite the fact that the psychologist proposed was the transfer of learning from food to other businesses and boys, in fact, after a few weeks ago finished a meal at the same time as everyone else in the family. To carry on his homework and his linking game on the withdrawal method when he failed to finish within a reasonable time.

case is pending with the problems persisting in the class room mainly to a lack of cooperation by the teachers.

Summer:

In this case study, we tested the idea by Eric Berne that will change the strategy chid in order to maintain the attention seeking behavior through a mental act of his "little professors" finding the most efficient way to receive the attention he craves. Although this method is the case in China, of course, universal, and works perfectly well in most societies. Withdrawal of learning based on the work of BF Skinner and behaviorism operational iz 1960. It is the understanding of transactional analysis in combination with positive reinforcement behaviourist techniques which allow parents to change disruptive behavior is more rewarding and positive parenting.

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